Published: July 1, 2014
You're deeply committed to helping your kids succeed. But you're concerned--why are so many graduates unprepared to enter the workforce and face life on their own? You're doing your best to raise healthy children, but sometimes you wonder, am I really helping them?
Tim Elmore shows you how to avoid twelve critical mistakes parents unintentionally make. He outlines practical and effective parenting skills so you won't fall into common traps, such as...
making happiness a goal instead of a by-product, not letting kids struggle or fight for what they believe, not letting them fail or suffer consequences lying about kids' potential--and not exploring their true potential giving them what they should earn.
As my children approach school age, I'm finding myself drawn to books like these--how to help them without hindering them. Elmore presents a very easy to follow and instructional book for parents in my position. Let's face it, there are some out of control parents over there--those who just don't let their kids grow up (and this can pose some real problems in adulthood. I know a few of these "kids" and, whoa, it's not pretty, folks!)
This book is very well organized. I will say that it is a little formulaic, but that works well here. Elmore tackles 12 issues by defining them, exploring them, and then offering suggestions for parents. I would say that very little of what he says is surprising, but the way he phrases it makes the reader realize that they might possibly be treading on thin ice and this might be the time to turn things around.
This book is put out by a Christian publisher and it came to me under the "Christian / Parenting" banner. I will say that Elmore keeps his faith-based talk to a very bare minimum. True, what he advocates is in line with what many consider "Christian" parenting principles, but it is really more common sense than anything. I don't think that a non-Christian would have any issue or would be bothered by the contents or language of this book.
My only complaint is that Elmore sometimes goes just a bit too far. For example, he frequently talks about how parents go to great lengths to protect their children and he does give some examples--not letting them walk to school on their own (if it is nearby) or advocating that play structures be removed from playgrounds. But he also includes things such as insisting kids wear seat belts and bike helmets. I get it about overreaction to "treacherous" playgrounds, but I do think it is just common sense (and good parenting) to make sure your kids wear seat belts and bike helmets. So, my advice to a reader would be to go in to this book willing to take his hyperbole with a grain of salt.
All in all this is a solid parenting book--and one I wish had come out 35 or 40 years ago.
I received an electronic copy of this book to read in return for an honest review. I received no other compensation for this post.